Ground rules for circles

“I am not here to give advice. If I want advice, I will specifically ask for it. I will ask permission before giving feedback. I will not interrupt another man with my opinions or advice. However, I do not need to ask permission to express my own truth.

Ground rules for a men’s circle

  • No advice – I am not here to give advice. If I want advice, I will specifically ask for it. I will ask permission before giving feedback.
  • Confidentiality – What I say here is confidential. I will not share another person’s words, actions, or identity outside of this group. I will only speak about my own experiences and personal insights.
  • Punctuality – The group will start and end at the agreed time. If I am late, I will not disrupt the group.
  • Ethical relationships – This is not a business group. There are no obligations. If I need something, I can ask for it before or after the meeting.
  • Non-violence – Violence can be physical, verbal, emotional, or spiritual… I recognize that my words and actions impact those around me. I will take responsibility for my words and actions.
  • No drugs or alcohol – I will not participate in the group when I am under the influence of alcohol or drugs. If I break this agreement, I will inform the group and accept the group’s decision on how to handle it, in order to ensure a safe space for all participants.
  • Participation – I will speak openly and honestly using “I” statements (not “we” or “you” statements).
  • Self-care – I am responsible for taking care of myself. If I need something, I will ask for it. If I have questions, I will ask them.
  • Pass or skip – Any man can pass or skip an exercise or sharing at any time. Any man can STOP a process (especially to protect their physical, mental, or emotional safety).

By maintaining clear guidelines and rules, we create a predictable and safe circle for everyone involved.